Taking the first step is perhaps one of the hardest actions that we may be doing be it a business transactions or personal relationships. In several cases, one would tend to wait for the other to make the first move. Different motivations may lies behind like fear of failure in meeting investors to a new business or being disregarded, unrequited, blamed, and or insulted in reconciling relationship with someone else. Pride and ego could be the roots of these which suppress someone to make the first move especially in terms of reconciliation.
Saying “hello, I’ll be willing to meet you over café for our business proposal” or “sorry, I guess I did a mistake” is a statement one would hesitate to pronounce. In business it might not be that difficult to do for as long as you are ready to accept whatever your discussions may lead but for personal relationship, it matters a lot because people involved are afraid of what people would think of them.In a friendship for example. When misunderstanding wrecked their relationship, none of them would be willing to make the first move to reconcile. Both of them would wait who will do the first hint for settlement but the worse is, the gap between them gets harsh as it takes more time especially when chitchats from other people amplified the issues. Such situation leads into complexity thereby making it very difficult for the people involved to respond positively in resolving the misunderstanding between them.
I have common friends who had fought due to misunderstanding. They were discussing on the whereabouts of their monetary contribution but due to severe argumentation they were not able to control their temper until they spanked one another. Though their long time friendship allowed themselves to stay together in one house, both of them were hesitant to make the first step of saying sorry. They exist as if they don’t see one another. When they were asked separately, they reasoned that if they make the first move it would mean that they were the one at fault thus don’t want to be ostracized by other friends. It was a simple problem. But fear of being blamed drives both of them not to make the first step in their reconciliation.
Another friend confessed that he had made a foolish courtship. He had let someone else to be “addicted to his bitter coffee” but when bedlam surprised his way out, he couldn’t be verbose as he is of admitting the real score. He believed that the best step he could do to patch out things is by being quiet for some days but he was mistaken for it caused anguish and worries to his special one. His great mistake was of not accepting the real scenario behind as the very first step and then explains later. Fear of making the first move to break the ice had somehow stained his personality.
Taking the first step of patching up problems is very important in a relationship. It prevents relationship from totally getting smashed up. It really does not matter whether you are at fault or not, who might not approve or who might criticize, and of what might it leads – failure or success for as long as you did the first step because at the end, it would sets you free from guilt.
Just as “Brian Tracy” quoted it as “The act of taking the first step is what separates the winners from the losers”.
