FORGIVE QUICKLY AND FREQUENTLY

By: Abdullah R. Sirad


Is it wrong to be tactless in saying what we don’t like to someone whom we cared most? Is it wrong to defend them regardless of what the situation is?

I admit I did so many mistakes to all people whom I cared most but I didn’t allow a chance to pass without patching it up. To my friends, I been too cruel of telling them straight forwardly what I wanted to tell them whether it may brings them happiness or sadness. This is because I cannot afford to see them being ridiculed by other people for their shortcomings.

Nice, a friend of mine is a trying hard that he would risk everything to show that he can perform something beyond other’s expectations. His work is of an “indoor” nature where he is supposed to do more on paper work. What annoyed me much is of seeing him climbing in those towering building taking pictures to people at work and to their work as well. At his age, he doesn’t suppose to risk him self just to earn “extra” appreciation from his boss considering that he could fall and die at any time. Much to this, I always see him seemingly too tired at the end of the office hour while complaining how much he had spent of taking that report and how pain seems to crack his head and body. I tried to ignore this though in my action, it insinuates my disappointment.

One day, he sent me an email attaching all paraphernalia asking for an assistance of how he could beautifully present his report. Another email was sent asking for the reimbursement of a digital camera which he had bought for his report. To my embarrassment of what I think is “OA”, I replied him all bitter statements adding that I don’t have ample time of wasting my time dealing with people who are just doing “magpasikat”. I heard from other friends that he was deeply hurt for what I wrote towards him. I felt guilty for what I did thus I took the chance to ask sorry when we met one night in a bus. We confronted a bit about the issue but both of us forgive quickly to one another.

Sometime, we really used to say or do something that upset to someone though we don’t intentionally mean to hurt them. When you cared for someone like your better half, friends and or siblings you have to do anything as if people have to walk over your dead body before they can hurt them. We used to be protective that even when it’s wrong, we still defend them because we love them.

Dr. Vicky Belo to Dr. Hyden Kho, Jr. for instance is a good example for this. In spite of the people’s flak against Vicky, she managed to defend and support Hyden from the sex scandal controversy he have done and in fact they were able to maintain their sweet romance.

But how frequent should we forgive or ask forgiveness? I am not a preacher but by experience, the long we kept grudges in our heart is the worse it became. Remember that Satan had been exerting strong influence on the human’s heart. He will make us do wrong by presenting evil as good, making us angry, jealous, envious, and we wrong ourselves and fall prey to his temptation. Forgiving is limitless. The Almighty ALLAH (GOD) had said through Hadith Qudsi:

O Son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O Son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you. O Son of Adam, were you to come to Me with sins as great as the earth, and were you then to face Me ascribing no partners to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as it.

Will people quickly forgive Marlene Aguilar of the things she did in protecting her son, road rage killing suspect Jason Ivler from the authority? What do you think Xena and Chaesa?